Friendsgiving is the better Thanksgiving, and everybody knows it. There’s no seating chart and no uncle with unwelcome opinions about your career (or other things). Someone’s roommate is deep-frying a turkey in the driveway, the host ran out of chairs an hour ago, and three people brought mac and cheese. It’s loose and a little chaotic, which is the whole point. Your outfit should match: good enough for the group photo, without looking like you’re headed somewhere nicer afterward.

Start with a cashmere polo. It’s as easy as a sweater but has a collar, which is about the right amount of effort for this kind of gathering. Buck Mason’s version is light enough that you won’t overheat in a crowded kitchen. Add Alex Mill’s pleated cords; the single pleat leaves a little room for seconds. Then ground everything with some leather moc-toe boots, handmade in Italy on a lug sole that look sharp but as comfortable as sneakers. Keep it all in the same warm browns and the outfit comes together without much thought. A handsome watch adds some polish. And since you’re not showing up empty-handed, carry the bottle in a proper wine tote. The host will remember who brought the good stuff.