The Obtainer - 10/20/25, Monday

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The Obtainer

Monday,
October 20th Edition

Cory Ohlendorf

Wearing a tie in 2025 is not about rules anymore. It’s about attitude.

- Cory Ohlendorf, Editor in Chief ⋯ @coryohlendorf

 
Your Fall Foundations

The New Way to Wear a Tie

For years, the tie was a symbol of rigidity—it conveyed a certain formality, not to mention corporate conformity. Of course, it enjoyed a return during the #menswear boom of the early aughts but faded back into the shadows as streetwear and workwear took center stage. Dress codes have relaxed almost everywhere, which means next to no places require neckwear. Which is maybe why they suddenly feel fresh again.

But as with so many other preppy staples—from rugby shirts and loafers to corduroy pants—the tie is quietly showing up on stylish guys this fall. Only now, it's less about boardrooms and more about personal expression. Today's tie revival is defined by ease. Think relaxed textures and offbeat pairings. Instead of plain shiny silk numbers, you're seeing slubby knits, matte wools and kooky vintage-inspired patterns.

As for how to wear them, take a style note from menswear writer Jake Woolf, who looks like he stepped out of an old Armani look book with his tie casually tucked into the waistband of his relaxed trousers. These are ties meant to look lived in, not locked away. They work just as well loosened over a rumpled denim shirt as they do tucked beneath a slightly oversized Oxford.

It's that balance between polish and personality that makes the look modern. A tie under a tweed blazer reads classic. A tie under a denim jacket? Effortlessly cool. The goal is to make it look like you meant to, not like you had to.

Classic

Venezia silk shantung tie,
$78 by The Tie Bar

 

Vintage-inspired silk tie,
$125 by Polo Ralph Lauren

 

Wool herringbone tie,
$245 by No Man Walks Alone

 

Self-tipped medallion tie,
$275 by Drake’s

 

Knit

Chocolate silk knit tie,
$170 by P.Johnson

 

Knitted striped tie,
$114 by Maison Milano

 

Open-weave knit tie,
$118 by Todd Snyder

 

Italian silk knit tie,
$98 by Buck Mason

5 Stylish Items to Buy This Week

New power duo just dropped. Modern American label Alex Mill linked up with heritage brand J. Press for a fall collection that nails bold, colorful prep. The tight edit includes Shetland wool sweaters ($275), made-in-U.S.A. tees and denim, wool trousers and a sharp blazer—all crafted with the kind of quality and fit both brands are known for. It's the perfect upgrade for your fall rotation.

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Smart Buys

The sales and discounts our team is currently watching.

 

Barn coats are definitely having a moment and Everlane’s version is cool, comfortable and available in four different color options.

$178 / $71
by Everlane

 

This rugged mule occupies a sweet spot in the closet between a smart casual shoe and comfy slipper.

$125 / $106
by LUCA

 

This Dries parka is made from technical twill with a paneled yoke and has plenty of pockets to keep your belongings safe and dry.

$1,255 / $753
by Dries Van Noten

 

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